We love being with family during Thanksgiving, but here are some questions to avoid.
It’s that time of the year again! It seems like yesterday we were celebrating the first day of 2021, and now we’re getting ready for our annual holiday feast. We gather with loved ones we haven’t seen all year, talk about the ‘good ole days,’ and eat our favorite dishes during Thanksgiving. But, for many of us, there is always that one question we loathe that family members always ask us every year.
It is customary to ask someone about their love lives, school, careers, and more as a family. However, it can be a little overwhelming.
Avoid these questions on Thanksgiving:
When are you going to have children?
This question is usually asked by older relatives who are curious about when a younger relative will start a family. Many of our more senior family members started their families in their early 20s. Some expect the newer generation to do the same, but not everyone wants children while they’re young. Some people don’t want children at all. It might seem like a simple curious question, but it can also put a lot of stress on an individual, especially if they’re the only person without a child or spouse in the family.
Why did you lose/gain so much weight?
PLEASE. Avoid making statements or asking questions about someone’s weight this holiday season. This year, as well as the last, have been life-changing for everyone in this world. With the loss of a loved one or the effect of quarantine, many of our bodies changed. Many people gain weight insecurities, and the last thing they need is for a relative to comment on their appearance.
What happened to your last boyfriend/girlfriend?
Some of us may see new faces this Thanksgiving. Try to avoid asking about past girlfriends/boyfriends in front of someone’s new spouse. If you’re curious, pull your relative over to the side and ask. Also, don’t try to make fun of their new spouse in front of the family for laughs and cool points. They’re already nervous about meeting you all. That’s not cool.
You still got that little business?
One thing that many small business owners hate is the lack of support from family members. Although, the family should never be your target audience. When asking about a business you don’t support, keep the ‘shade’ away. Small business owners already have to prove that their business is valuable to their target markets; they don’t want to hear subtle shade during the holidays.
What are some questions you hope to avoid?
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