How To Get Over A Friendship Breakup

We were like Fred & Grady. Spongebob & Patrick. Sam & Cat.

Yes, you read the title correctly.

Friendship breakups are real and they’re just as hard as regular breakups. These type of breakups can happen for a plethora of reasons.

However, the two most common reasons are the following: The two of you have outgrown each other or One person’s personality has changed to fit in and started acting differently towards you.

Either way, it can be a bummer for someone who was a real friend from the beginning to end.

There’s a way to let this go without having any bad blood towards the other individual though.

Accept that the friendship is over.

This is the hardest part about a friendship breakup. You have to realize that things aren’t how they used to be and it’s probably for the best. If you’ve outgrown each other, this part might be easier for some people to deal with.

You’ve realized that you both are going in two totally different directions/routes. It’s best to protect your energy.

If the friendship is over because of the second reason, the other person is going down a road that you don’t need to be involved in anyway.

Eventually they’ll regret their decision. However, take some time before you try to replace that friend.

Learn from the lesson and grow.

All types of breakups are lessons. You’ve learned more about the company you should keep and why it’s important to do what is necessary to protect your energy.

Once again, if you all were friends for a while or were really close, it’ll be hard to get over the breakup.

Yet, in the end you’ll have more knowledge and you’ll be more cautious about who you let in your life.

Have any of you been through friendship breakups?

How did you feel?

Listen to the recent episode of my podcast “A Real One w/Lashaunta Shanese”

It’s available on Spotify, Apple Podcast, iHeartRadio, Google Podcast and more! Plus it’s available on my website:

Check out my Urban Fiction Books:

Sn: I’m officially a Freelance Writer for Sheen Magazine! I created a fun article comparing the characters of Martin to zodiac signs. Read here:

Follow me on my social media’s:





8 thoughts on “How To Get Over A Friendship Breakup

  1. I lost 2 friends shortly after my wedding. We were friend for 7 years! Things turned nasty as soon as I got engaged. People definitely outgrow one another. I haven’t spoken to them in 3 years and the pain still lingers. I moved on and my life is totally different now. For better or for worse, it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

    Liked by 1 person

      1. People change. It sucks when friendships turn sour. I let them go… I was the one who told them not to contact me anymore. I also sent them letters explaining my views. Never heard from them after that. They didn’t even try to remedy the situation so I figured they weren’t worth fighting for anymore. 🤷‍♀️

        Liked by 1 person

      2. Exactly! They made is very easy for me to figure out if they were true friends or not. Since then, I haven’t tried to find new friends knowing how emotionally exhausting 99% of them are. Whoever stuck around, I kept them in my life and I’m still continuing to prune the list. Friendships shouldn’t sap you of energy.


  2. Unfortunately friendship breakups are very real and in a way I find them worse than relationship breakups. I cut out a friend some time ago and it was really hard but it was the right thing to do. She and I were best friends but she became a really toxic person over the last few years and I just could not handle her negativity anymore.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s