We were like Fred & Grady. Spongebob & Patrick. Sam & Cat.

Yes, you read the title correctly.

Friendship breakups are real and they’re just as hard as regular breakups. These type of breakups can happen for a plethora of reasons.

However, the two most common reasons are the following: The two of you have outgrown each other or One person’s personality has changed to fit in and started acting differently towards you.

Either way, it can be a bummer for someone who was a real friend from the beginning to end.

There’s a way to let this go without having any bad blood towards the other individual though.

Accept that the friendship is over.

This is the hardest part about a friendship breakup. You have to realize that things aren’t how they used to be and it’s probably for the best. If you’ve outgrown each other, this part might be easier for some people to deal with.

You’ve realized that you both are going in two totally different directions/routes. It’s best to protect your energy.

If the friendship is over because of the second reason, the other person is going down a road that you don’t need to be involved in anyway.

Eventually they’ll regret their decision. However, take some time before you try to replace that friend.

Learn from the lesson and grow.

All types of breakups are lessons. You’ve learned more about the company you should keep and why it’s important to do what is necessary to protect your energy.

Once again, if you all were friends for a while or were really close, it’ll be hard to get over the breakup.

Yet, in the end you’ll have more knowledge and you’ll be more cautious about who you let in your life.

Have any of you been through friendship breakups?

How did you feel?

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10 Replies to “How To Get Over A Friendship Breakup”

  1. I lost 2 friends shortly after my wedding. We were friend for 7 years! Things turned nasty as soon as I got engaged. People definitely outgrow one another. I haven’t spoken to them in 3 years and the pain still lingers. I moved on and my life is totally different now. For better or for worse, it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

    1. I’m sorry to hear that! I was friends with someone for years and out of no where they just started changing who they were. Sometimes it’s still sad when I think about it but I’ve learned to finally let it go.

      1. People change. It sucks when friendships turn sour. I let them go… I was the one who told them not to contact me anymore. I also sent them letters explaining my views. Never heard from them after that. They didn’t even try to remedy the situation so I figured they weren’t worth fighting for anymore. 🤷‍♀️

      2. Exactly! They made is very easy for me to figure out if they were true friends or not. Since then, I haven’t tried to find new friends knowing how emotionally exhausting 99% of them are. Whoever stuck around, I kept them in my life and I’m still continuing to prune the list. Friendships shouldn’t sap you of energy.

  2. Unfortunately friendship breakups are very real and in a way I find them worse than relationship breakups. I cut out a friend some time ago and it was really hard but it was the right thing to do. She and I were best friends but she became a really toxic person over the last few years and I just could not handle her negativity anymore.

    1. She definitely lost a great friend. I can tell that you’re genuinely a positive person. Hopefully she can learn from this loss and try to be a better individual. One of the friends I’ve lost acts the exact same way.

      1. Thank you so much! You’re an amazing person too and you deserve really great friends who are positive people so definitely her loss.

  3. For three years,
    She assured me that i would always be her bestfriend but she ended up giving up on me
    She told me i was the best person alive for her and ended up telling me i was toxic
    She treated me like i never really meant anything to her.
    She made me feel worthless and unwanted.
    She destroyed me emotionally that i am afraid to love anyone ever again

    1. I’m so sorry she made you feel this way. She didn’t deserve someone like you to be her best friend. This is not your fault, I hope you know. The perfect best friend will come to you. Just continue to be yourself and never change 💜

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