Quote of The Day:
Availability does not decrease your value, it tests the values of others.
I’ve learned that being available too much opens the door for being used. What do I mean by being available?
I mean always being there for people without seeking nothing in return. You’re the type of person who stops what their doing to make sure others are okay. You put their happiness before your own.
Don’t get me wrong, you’re a great person, but you need to change your availability. Being a good person is the entrance to the door of being taken advantage of.
a·vail·a·bil·i·ty
-noun
The quality of being able to be used or obtained.
After reading the definition, you’re probably like “b*tch, no one can ever use me”, I understand sis, but you’re already being used.
Here’s one way to change your availability.
1. Don’t be available after a certain time.
We’ve all filled out a job application before, and got to the part where they’d ask about our availability. They’ll ask if we’re available all day or after a certain time. This is what you need to do. Don’t be available to help some one all day, change your time. This can only apply to certain people.If there’s someone who helps you at anytime then this doesn’t apply to them. This is for the people who consistently asks you for help/things knowing you’d give in. Those people who, when you need help, tells you ‘I’m not available right now’.
I hope this helped you guys as much as it helped me. Although, I’m still learning how not to be available as much myself. It’s a long process, when you’re a good person you never not want to help people.
PS: This is not just for romantic relationships. This is for relationships between family and friends as well.
What’s your thoughts on this topic?