It took me a while to realize that I am not responsible for other people’s mistakes. I know some of you may be reading this like ‘duh, you should’ve been knew that’, but it’s not that easy for me. I am the type of person that does all that I can to help the people I love.
I even put myself last in certain situations.
I made a post about how hard it was for me to tell people ‘no’ when I was younger. I feared being called selfish or a bad friend/ fake family member. (Life 101: “Start Saying No”) and of course, that broke a few bonds that I had with people, but obviously the bond was never real to begin with if you have a problem with me telling you ‘no’ after a million ‘yes’.
When I give people advice, I know it’s their choice to listen or not, but I always used to feel like I’ve could’ve done more or tried harder.
I’ve finally grown out of that, though.
I still don’t have a problem helping the people I love, but I’m not blaming myself for their mistakes anymore, especially when they barely care themselves.
I’m fully aware that mistakes are life lessons, but when someone continuously makes the same mistake, what do you call that?
I used to blame myself for people missing out on big career opportunities and jobs but I’m not doing that anymore.
If I can build a good resume and connections by myself then so could you if you put the same effort in.
I will be a senior in college in August, and I have a lot on my plate. The last thing I need to be trying to fix someone’s mistakes whose not trying to fix them themselves.
I didn’t used to think that there was a such thing called ‘caring too much’, but now that I’m older, I do.
I’m not saying that I’m going to stop being the loving person that I am, but as for trying to fix people, that’s over.