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“Relationships aren’t always 50/50.”

A lot of people don’t like to say it, but, relationships are not always 50/50.

What do I mean by that?

There will be times in a relationship where you’ll give more than what you receive. There might be a time it’ll be 80/20. I know what some of you may be thinking.

Who in their right mind would stay in a relationship where they give more than what they receive?

I’m not referring to materialistic things, if that’s what you’re thinking.

You gave him a Porsche and he gave you a Toyota??? Leave him!

A lot can happen that shifts the percentage in a relationship. For example, your significant other could lose their job, and you might have to pay all the bills or take on an extra shift to support the family. This is where you’ll be tested. Are you going to leave your significant other because they can no longer provide for the family at the moment?

OR…

Are you going to take over most of the responsibilities until they get on their feet?

What if they never get back on their feet? I’m supposed to have 80% forever?

No one is obligated to stay with anyone if they don’t want  to, but this type of situation will definitely determine whether you were actually in love or not. In some cases, this may be too much for one person to handle so it leads to breakups or a divorce.

In my opinion, if you really care about your relationship  you’ll do anything you can to keep it together. Of course, that goes for the person who lost their job as well. That person can cook, clean, and take care of the children until it can be 50/50 again.

What do you think about this situation?

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3 thoughts on ““Relationships aren’t always 50/50.”

  1. I agree with everything you said.
    Perfectly written!
    I do believe relationship/marriage as a whole 50/50 and I will try my best to explain.
    Like you can marry a person that might not make nowhere near as much money as you. So when it comes to finances, the person who has the bigger income might pay at least 75% to 80% of the bills.
    Now the spouse who has the smaller income could be better at cooking or keeping the house organized so that spouse might be in charge of taking care of the house where the other spouse follow the lead.
    As a whole relationships and marriages is 50/50 meaning that both people work their ass of to be responsible to maintain the relationship and marriage. But 50/50 is not actually where you split everything category as far as bills, chores, sex, watching the kids etc down the middle because I believe this would make a relationship or marriage collapse

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    1. Wow, I didn’t think of it this way! You’re absolutely right, I’ve read an article about how “50/50” leads to divorce because of the lack of one person trying to keep the relationship together. I didn’t think about it being 50/50 in terms of the relationship in general. Great comment!

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