Reality 101: Dysfunctional Families

Remember watching reruns of shows like ‘The Brady Bunch’ when you were little and thinking that’s how all families were supposed to be– all happy and close together? When I was younger, I thought my entire family was supposed to live in this huge house, eat dinner together, play games, watch movies, and other things. Well, in reality, it’s the complete opposite. Don’t get me wrong, there are families who still do those things, but they’re becoming more rare. A lot of families are dysfunctional. They can’t even get together for a BBQ without arguing and fighting about something that happened in the past.

There are many different ways to describe what exactly a dysfunctional family is. In my opinion, it depends on what you’ve been through or what you’ve witness between your own family or another family. My definition of a dysfunctional family is one that is toxic and abusive towards each other. I’m basing this definition off of personal experience as well as what I’ve witnessed.

Some families don’t even greet each other. They treat each other like outsiders, jealous of other family members who make more money than them, pressure other family members about their love life, they even verbally abuse each other. Rather than talking out their problems, they don’t acknowledge the situation, they’ll stop talking to you for months to years, never apologize, and even turn to physical violence– fighting.

So, what are some ways to help a member of a dysfunctional family? They are the following:

  1. See a therapist. It’s very hard to deal with the emotional toll of a dysfunctional family alone. …
  2. Allow yourself to feel angry. Many people feel they must forgive or let go of bad behavior. …
  3. Work on expressing your emotions. …
  4. Learn to trust others. …
  5. Take good care of yourself.

Our families are our first interactions with people. We learn how to communicate with others through family. So let’s try to get functional families back. It’s the summer, go out and have fun with your family.

 

3 thoughts on “Reality 101: Dysfunctional Families

  1. Nice post here LaShaunta, and I like the suggestions that you have given above as well. Relationships with family can be hard, especially because we need to live with these people, and constantly deal with them. If you say something mean, you bet that you would see them again soon, and that conversation would continue. Personality clashes are also not unheard of in families. At the end of the day, we did not choose the family that we are born into, we just happen to be born there, and just like any other relationship, we need to work on it. When it comes to dysfunctional families and the web of toxicities that can emerge from there, I like to try my best efforts, however, some time our best efforts are not enough. When there is nothing else to do, I pray. When there is something to do, I pray. God as our heavenly Father is able to help with anything. He is a creator, a protector, a provider, a friend, a healer, a teacher , and so much more. God can do anything and nothing is impossible for the Lord to do. I pray over these situations and I am surprised at some of the results that I have gotten from prayers. God has the power to change the hearts of people, and prayers have the power to change the heart of God. God is real and prayers work, and it is best to commit all things into his hands. A relationship with the Lord begins with faith in the Lord, obedience to the Bible, prayers to God, and a passion for Christ.

    God says in Isaiah 41:10
    “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.
    Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.
    I will strengthen you and help you.
    I will hold you up with my victorious right hand”.

    God says in Jeremiah 29:11
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope”.

    The Bible says in Philippians 4:6
    “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done”.

    The Bible says in Matthew 7: 7-8
    “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened”.

    If you do not yet have a relationship with the Lord, I would strongly suggest that you begin one. There are a lot of blessings that comes from knowing the Lord, and being in fellowship with him. If you already have a relationship with the Lord, that is good, keep believing and working to deepen your relationship with him, and I am sure that he would come through for you somehow.

    If you want to know about God in more detail, you can find further information here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/10/23/a-few-things-that-i-have-learned-about-god/ And Here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/

    May God’s blessings be with you, Amen. ❤ ❤

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